Time Alone. A Series.
Spending time alone used to feel strange, almost like something was wrong with me if I wanted or enjoyed it. Society teaches us that connection equals happiness, that being surrounded by people means we’re loved and fulfilled. Whilst that’s true in part, there’s another truth we often forget: being alone doesn’t always mean being lonely, especially when it’s filled with actions of self-love.
In fact, time alone can be one of the most healing and empowering experiences we can give ourselves.
The Benefits of Time Alone
When you spend time by yourself, you give your mind and body a chance to slow down. You reconnect with your own energy, your own rhythm. You recognise your emotions and really tune in. Here’s what that solitude can bring:
- Clarity. No external noise. Your thoughts start to make sense again. You can actually hear what you think and feel.
- Peace. You stop performing and start existing. There’s no pressure to talk, no need to impress, no roles to play. Time without expectation.
- Creativity. Inspiration thrives in silence. When your brain has space, new ideas and perspectives appear naturally.
- Self-Trust. You learn to rely on yourself for comfort and validation, not from constant company or approval.
- Energy Reset. Alone time is how many of us recharge, it’s not selfish, it’s necessary. This one is KEY for me.
Overcoming the Fear of Being Alone
It’s normal to feel awkward doing things solo, especially if you haven’t done it before it can be daunting, dinner, the cinema, a walk, a day trip. You might think people are judging you or that you’ll feel lonely. Most people are too caught up in their own world to notice, and if they do, they’ll probably admire your confidence.
Spending time alone teaches you to enjoy your own company. The first few times might feel uncomfortable because it’s out of the ordinary, but it becomes freeing. You stop needing someone else to make moments special, and you start realising you can make them special. Don’t wait for someone else to begin living. Book that class. Go on that holiday. Eat at that new restaurant.
Starting Small
- Go for a coffee alone and leave your phone in your bag.
- Take yourself to the park with a book.
- Watch a film at the cinema solo.
- Cook yourself a meal and set the table just for you.
- Book a class or workshop that interests you.
Journal Prompts for Embracing Time Alone
- What feelings come up when I think about being alone?
- What activities make me feel peaceful when I do them by myself?
- How can I create small rituals of solitude in my week?
- What have I learned about myself in my quiet moments?
- When was the last time I truly felt at peace, and what was I doing?
- What part of me is afraid of stillness, and what does it need to feel safe?
Learning to enjoy your own company is one of the greatest forms of self-love. It’s not about shutting others out, it’s about reconnecting with the person who’s been there all along: you.
When you fall in love with your solitude, you stop fearing it. You start seeing it for what it really is, a sacred space where you grow, heal, and return to yourself.
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